As men, most important and above all else in our personal process of healing, we will have to learn to really forgive ourselves.The eternal elixir, salve and balm for our deepest sadness, pain and self doubts is always Love. This ability to forgive ourselves begins to unwind the habitual projections and abusive attitudes and behaviors that are the dark outer expression of our Shadow nature. In time, this profoundly powerful and necessary act of self love allows a man to forgive those in his life he's erroneously blamed for his own pain.
To effectively resolve and heal our Shadow and transform our often vast reservoirs of accumulated anger, fear, pain and shame we have to learn to embrace it all in forgiveness, gratitude and self love. Only when we learn to live in and through our open Heartspace will the ghosts of our past disappointments finally disappear. We do this by consciously opening our Heartspace through the healing power of forgiveness and in time, gratitude and learning to unconditionally love all parts of ourselves, no matter how dark, repulsive or nasty. This is a non-negotiable.
In short, we have to learn to live in and through our open Heartspace, once and for all. For us men, this is so huge! This Heart centered consciousness releases the hold our deep set emotional blockages and fear based belief systems and conditioning have had on us for most if not all of our lives.
In doing so, we will learn a whole new language, a dramatically different way of being men, however and ironically appropriate, with few usable role models, blueprints or roadway maps to guide us. We are in fact, making it up as we go, fumbling to grow along the sharp learning curves already set by women, all without the natural inclusive qualities of the sisterhood. As is fairly obvious, men have a long way to go to catch up to women, as far as the evolutionary learning curve is concerned.
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